The secret to lasting marriages

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Mrs Cynthia Okpara went to her husband’s office to report him to his boss. She told her husband’s boss how her husband Mr Odogwu Okpara usually squanders his N60,000 salary and only gave her N30,000 for upkeep.

After her narration, the boss told her to come back on the last day of the month.

On the said day, she arrived as planned. The boss called Mr Odogwu and they all sat down in the boss’ office.

The boss started,’ Mr. Odogwu, your wife reported to me some days ago that you squander your salary outside and only give the family N30,000 for upkeep. So right now, I’m going to personally hand over your salaries to her from today henceforth.’

‘How much is your transportation to work daily?’, the boss asked.
‘N900 sir’, Mr. Odogwu replied.

The boss handed over N19,800 to Mr. Odogwu. ‘That should take you for 22 days’.

‘Do you take breakfast at home?’, the boss continued.

‘No sir, I leave home very early to beat traffic jam’.

‘How much do you spend on breakfast and lunch daily?’

‘N500 sir’, replied Mr. Odogwu.

The boss handed over N11,000 to Mr. Odogwu.

‘Who pays the children’s school fees’, the boss asked facing Mrs. Okpara.

‘He does’, she replied pointing at Mr. Odogwu.

‘How much is the school fees and how many kids have you?’

‘N30,000 per term for the two kids we have?’

‘In other words, you save N10,000 monthly for each term’s school fees right?’

‘Yes sir’, replied Mr. Odogwu.

Once again, the boss handed N10,000 to him.

‘Who pays the rent and how much is it?’

‘I do sir. The rent is N36,000 per annum.’ Mr. Odogwu replied.

‘That’s N3,000 monthly right?’, the boss added as he handed over N3,000 to Mr. Odogwu

‘I don’t want to ask about clothings, electricity bills, etc as I know both of you might be handling that’, the boss said as he handed over N16,200 to Mrs. Okpara.

‘What’s this for, sir’, Mrs. Okpara asked surprised.

‘Money for upkeep’, the boss replied her.

‘But it wouldn’t take us anywhere’, she exclaimed.

‘So why don’t you appreciate the N30,000 your husband sacrifices for you monthly?’, the boss asked.

The woman hugged her husband tightly and the rest is history.


Mrs Okpara and a lot of women reading this don’t know what their husbands sacrifice to put food on the table. Most times, they go hungry. Sometimes, they swallow their pride and engage in menial and debasing jobs just so their families can eat. A lot of times, they can’t even buy good clothes to wear rather they sacrifice so that their wives and kids can get one.

A man might not tell you what he goes through to get you the cash he gives to you as telling you might make you start underrating his person but to tell you the truth, men go through a lot and need to be appreciated.every married woman reading this should say “God bless my husband”.

God Bless everyone