Best marriage tips for Women

A good woman makes a good wife and a good wife makes a good mother.

A good mother gives birth to a good child, too. If you want to be one, please emulate the steps below:

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don’t expose your husband’s weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other’s keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret
them. Defensive women don’t have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you’ve no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband’s friends because you don’t like them, the person who’s supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband’s sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband’s right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It’s very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand on starvation for too long (even the anointed
ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don’t do that.

14). Don’t forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don’t waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don’t forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don’t be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn’t even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don’t associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly – it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.

31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only God can solve our problems – not parent, not scholars not anybody but, only God and then you

Source: From Mrs Joyce Meyer
USA TV Evangelist

Nigerian lady arrested for marrying 2 men

A 37-year-old woman has been arrested in Kano for allegedly marrying two husbands.

The woman, Hauwa Ali, was arrested on Monday from her residence in Kumbotso Local Government Area of the state.

An official, Alhaji Lawan Fagge, said the woman was apprehended after her first husband, Bello Ibrahim, 45, who was critically ill and taken to his village for treatment, reported the case.

He said, “After waiting for some time, she thought he was dead and proceeded to marrying the second husband, Bala Abdulsalam.

“Abdulsalam, 40, claimed to have paid a dowry of N20,000 to her.

“The first husband was the father of her six children and they were living in their matrimonial home when she went ahead to marry another man.”

Fagge said Ibrahim after recovering from the sickness, was brought back to the house only to find out that his wife had married another man.

“The woman at the moment has three or four children for the second husband. She claimed the first husband had divorced her but he denied ever divorcing her,” Fagge said.

The woman would be charged to court upon the conclusion of investigation.

Finding love in strange places

Alvona Loh Zi Hui, a junior doctor at a Chinese hospital, wrote this true life story to inspire other young women hoping to find love against the odds.

Her letter reads:

On my 26th birthday this year, my family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances were all very concerned about my relationship status.

“Huh, you are still single ah?” some of them would blurt out bluntly.

It would have made for a comical scene, if not for the scenario repeating itself countless times on the same day like a broken tape recorder.

How amusing and frustrating it is to be asked the same question again and again on your birthday, when it should really be spent blissfully.

Quite interestingly, nobody asked me about my work, hobbies or how my speech went at a recent event I planned, even though those were central to my life.

Ah, singlehood. There are real societal pressures to pair up and settle down.

Although I am sure many men have been asked this question, women are often asked this question at far higher frequency and severity, in view of women’s ticking biological clocks for childbearing, and the perceived deflation in “value” of women with time in the dating pool.

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Appallingly, a rather unflattering term “leftover women” has been coined in China for women who are still single in their late 20s. I cannot help but imagine these women as “leftovers” on the dining table, that nobody wants anymore.

These are societal perceptions. However, are women really single because they’re unwanted? Should women succumb to society’s expectations?

Recently, I had several meetups with close friends of approximately the same age, all exceptionally driven and attractive ladies, who were also single. We commonly felt bewilderment on whether setting benchmarks for women to hit by a certain age is reasonable.

The past Valentine’s Day, when many ladies were receiving flowers from their boyfriends or out for a candle-lit dinner with their beau, a friend was at home, typing furiously at her laptop to complete a work assignment that was soon to be due.

Her parents were notably disgusted and disappointed, and cautioned her: “You would never be complete if you don’t get married or have children.”

Immense shame struck my unpartnered friend during this episode, as if she was letting her family down by remaining single.

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Yes, sadly this is the Asian perspective of one’s duty to parents. In an advertisement by SK-II which explored “leftover women”, a 27-year-old woman from China cried when she felt unfilial to her parents for not being married.

In 2014, a 28-year-old woman from Shaanxi nearly attempted suicide allegedly from familial pressure to get married.

It is tragic to be reduced to being “single or not” in the eyes of others. Women have their own identities, professional work and social lives. Pairing up is only one aspect of our lives.

Furthermore, people who hurry women to pair up often forget that relationships are difficult and complex. You need time, conscious effort, the right partner, common goals and more.

For those who tried dating apps like Coffee Meets Bagel such as myself, difficulties in sustaining communication and striking a chord may arise.

After trying it for over a year, the frequency of my checks and replies have plummeted after the conversations often stop after an exchange of “Hi”. I found that it was incredibly difficult to build friendships, let alone relationships, on an app.

For those who tried being in relationships, there may also be breakups and let-downs. Some of my friends who have undergone breakups shared that the whole experience was “unsatisfying and a waste of time”.

Although I’ve not gone through a breakup myself as I couldn’t even get started in a relationship, listening to my friends’ accounts made me feel as if I’ve gone through aplenty. This may be part and parcel of life, but the truth is that sometimes, devoting more effort to work is a more rewarding experience than the uncertain prospects of love life.

If you are wondering why it’s so hard for me to get started, a combination of missed opportunities, ambiguous communication, not prioritising my romantic life and the need to maintain laser-like focus on my studies and work probably explains the situation.

Furthermore, as a relationship is something considerably optional, it is not difficult to place it on the back burner for an extended period of time.

By now, many of us secretly abide by the view that in this day and age, women should have a livelihood, maintain financial independence (no matter how much or little one earns), and maintain her circle of networks, as these build confidence and respect in any relationship.

Confidence and respect apply not only in romantic relationships, but the relationship with oneself, such as in the practice of self-love. Single by choice or otherwise, “the most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself,” as fashion designer Diane von Furstenberg once said.

Simply put, gone are the days when it is commonplace for women to rely on men, which was traditionally widely accepted.

One time on a weekend, I suddenly received a frantic call from a friend who was panicking when accused of being “too picky” and told that “time can run out”, by a potential suitor who was possibly mad that he was “friend zoned”.

She thought that the curt replies were awkward and uncalled for, as she was only trying to focus on herself at that time, with plans for a change of job and further studies.

Nobody should cast aspersions on one’s choice to be single. Single women are single due to multiple reasons: One’s choice, lack of time, physical exhaustion, emotional unavailability, job woes or lack of a suitable partner and so on.

For many, the idea of a relationship is still highly attractive and retains its appeal, if one is ready and lucky enough to find it. The problems perhaps lie in the practical processes of finding and maintaining romantic love.

Angry man begs court to approve a sword fight with ex-wife and lawyer

After losing a court case with his ex-wife, an American man has asked a judge for permission to have a sword fight with the woman and her attorney.

David Ostrom, from Kansas, claims his former flame Bridgette and her lawyer Matthew Hudson had “destroyed him legally”, and he insisted the judge has the power to let the couple “resolve our disputes in the field of battle, legally”.

He added that trial by combat has never been banned in the United States.

The aggrieved man also asked the judge to adjourn the case for 12 weeks so he can get some Japanese samurai swords.

David claims that he filed his motion out of frustration with his ex-wife’s attorney.

He said: “I think I’ve met Mr Hudson’s absurdity with my own absurdity.”

Matthew asked the judge to reject the request, because a duel could end in death and outweigh the legal disputes between the couple.

‘Like iOS and Android,’ Andie Chen describes his marriage to Kate Pang

They may be blood-related, but for Adam Tan, getting his older brother Andie Chen to invest in his events marketplace platform EFFRO was an uphill task because, well, as the latter candidly put it, “I can see through all his bulls***.”

“This applies to anyone who is close to you, be it a sibling, spouse, or best friend,” Andie explained. “When you get a bright idea and share it with them, they’ll be like, ‘Walao, this is stupid lah.’ (Laughs) It’s just harder to convince them.”

What’s more, the 34-year-old actor admitted that his little brother’s apparent frivolousness made him question why he should put his money (literally) on “this young punk”. “Before he started EFFRO, he was trying out so many different things and dating different girls, like so not stable one! So I said, go and prove you’re serious about this, then we can talk.”

Well, Adam obviously managed to pull it off otherwise both wouldn’t be sitting together for an interview with Toggle. Besides demonstrating how committed he was by quitting his previous job as an emcee to concentrate on building EFFRO, the 31-year-old had data documenting his company’s growth and future goals to present to Andie, which helped persuade him to come on board as an investor and advisor.

The numbers are pretty impressive: EFFRO earned over S$500,000 in revenue last year and is projected to make twice that by the end of 2019. It also recently set up platforms in Malaysia and Thailand, and there are plans to continue expanding throughout the Southeast Asian region. Two of Adam’s proudest achievements that he gushed about were helping one events company grow by over 300 per cent in 18 months, and another to hold its first overseas function in Bangkok.

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Not bad for something started by a “young punk”.

The story behind EFFRO’s inception embodies the saying “necessity is the mother of invention”. Adam recalled complaining to Andie and their eldest brother Ash about how difficult it was to find talents when he ran an events company, and how difficult it was to find companies that wanted to hire talents when he was an emcee. “It was ridiculous – the two sides never met!”

Thus, the idea to create a one-stop shop for both talents and event organisers to find and engage each other – think Airbnb, food delivery apps, and, to a certain extent, Carousell – was born. EFFRO was registered in 2014, officially opened for business in 2017, and was relaunched just recently with a focus on professional event organisers (instead of individual consumers) and a friendlier user experience.

By now, some of you might be wondering: so where does Andie come in?

“I just advise him lah,” he grinned, gesturing towards Adam. Specifically, his expertise is in the area of showbiz – and he doesn’t hold back with his opinions. “I started all the way at the bottom and now I’m in the TV and film industry, so I know what the ecosystem is like in the entertainment industry. For example, when he comes to me about an idea involving an actor or host, I’ll be like, it’s good, but you might have a problem here.”

Andie’s frankness has led to Adam dubbing him “a wet blanket”, albeit a very necessary one. “He basically gives me reality checks,” Adam shared. “Because of his advice, I’m steered away from making mistakes I would never have known about.”

This is where working with a close relative proves to be a bigger boon than a bane. “I could easily find any other advisor, but they may not be willing to be as straightforward as Andie,” Adam explained, as his brother added, “One good thing is that I’m always keeping him accountable – no one’s gonna dare to scold the boss, right? (Laughs)”

Of course, this is not the first time Andie has been colleagues with a family member. Remember when he and his wife, actress Kate Pang, launched Kandie Network almost four years ago? Managing the now-defunct parenting portal together apparently took a toll on their marriage, and the couple ended up arguing all the time, which rarely happened before.

“Actually, it’s easier to work with my brother because we grew up in the same family, so we have similar values and mindsets,” Andie shared. “On the other hand, my wife and I are running on completely different operating systems, like iOS and Android, which I learned the hard way.”

He continued, “We never had one big fight, just multiple small ones, and one day we were just like, why have we been fighting the whole year? So we disbanded the company to start our own separate ones, and while we still work together very closely, we do it in our own different ways and we’re back to the time where we just don’t fight.”

Of course, that’s not to say Andie and Adam don’t have their own sibling squabbles, but they clash over personal matters more than professional ones. “We care about each other, so when we see behaviour that we think should change, we will sit down and stage an intervention, and there will sometimes be crying,” Andie chuckled.

“Us three brothers are ridiculously close to the point that people ask us, ‘You all no friends ah? Always hanging out with each other.’ (Laughs) But I really do spend most of my time with my family, and because we care so deeply, when we fight, we fight with love… as disgusting as that sounds! (Laughs)”

Why fans are angry with Jason Godfrey’s marriage

It’s tough living with a cast member of a TV show you’re following. Just ask Rose Leslie (wife of Game of Thrones’ Kit Harington) or Sorina Veronica Catuna (wife of KIN’s Jason Godfrey), who’ve both been subjected to unwanted spoilers just because they asked their partners about their day at work.

When a media house caught up with Jason to talk about KIN’s five-year time jump (which starts in episode 244) and his recent wedding, the Filipino-Canadian actor admitted that talking about what happened on the set of the popular Channel 5 series at home can get him in trouble if he’s not careful.

One example is when he – spoiler alert for those who are still far behind – revealed that his character James Shelley’s then-fiancée Emily Kwan was going to cheat on him.

“She was like, ‘Aaargh! Why would you tell me!’ It did not go down well,” he recalled with a sheepish grin.

Well, that certainly didn’t stop Sorina, an interior designer from Romania whom he dated for about eight years, from agreeing to marry Jason when he popped the question during a weekend getaway in Phuket, Thailand.

“We were walking along the beach and I thought, okay, this is nice, I’m going to try and propose,” he recalled.

“Her hands were full because she had been picking up recycling, so I made her stand in the sand – with her feet nicely buried so she couldn’t run away from me – and I asked her to marry me. I saw the panic in her eyes, but she couldn’t move, and she said yes. She had no choice. (Laughs)”

He’s clearly embellished some details for comedic effect, but hey, that’s one way to tell your future kids how mummy and daddy became engaged. And yes, Jason and Sorina “definitely” have plans to start a family. He’s already been getting ample practice on how to handle children thanks to his onscreen daughter in KIN, five-year-old child actress Germaine Tong.

“On our first day, we only shot two scenes, but it felt like I had shot 12 – I was so tired! If I have a kid, my favorite game is going to be ‘daddy’s going to lie on the couch while you play over there’.” We’re sure those with little ones at home can relate.

Zhou Ying reveals her secret to surviving long distance relationship

Remember Zhou Ying?

The Star Search 2007 (the competition that produced stars like Andie Chen, Ya Hui and Desmond Tan) alumnus might have only been in Singapore for a few short years, but the Shanghai-born actress certainly made a splash with her acting chops. Among her most memorable roles is as Tang Ying in Breakout, which also earned her a Best Actress nom during the 2011 Star Awards.

When she decided to pack her bags and return to Shanghai at the peak of her career in 2013, some wondered if she was going home to get married, or if she was retiring from showbiz. At the time, she shared that she wanted to spend more time with her family.

Fast forward six years later, and Zhou Ying chuckled that there was more to it than she realised at the time. Speaking to newsmen while sipping coffee at Wild Honey during her vacation in Singapore on Sunday, the 34-year-old shared: “I was just so burned out that I felt like I had nothing more to give.

“I filmed three dramas a year – maybe even more – and I was exhausted. I didn’t have time to recuperate, and I felt like there wasn’t anything new I could show through my acting. That’s when I knew I needed a change.”

This change includes a conscious effort to pick up a maximum of one drama and one movie, or their equivalent in terms of commitment, a year. She is still very much into acting, and has continued challenging herself by taking on projects that push her limits. She took on her first theater play last year as she felt that she needed to force herself to be better at memorizing her script, and proudly declared that she pulled off a two-and-a-half hour production with aplomb.

She mused, “I need breaks in between my projects. I can’t just rest for a day. I need weeks, or even better, a month to rest, recharge and recuperate. I also have my family and friends to think of. I need time to paktor (date) as well.”

As for who she’s paktor-ing with, Zhou Ying shared that she has been dating her non-celebrity boyfriend for about eight years.

“I got to know him even before I came to Singapore. We started dating before I came here, and we were in a long distance relationship when I was working here,” she said. “Now that I look back, I don’t know how we managed to maintain our relationship, but we did. I guess it’s also because the both of us are very similar in the sense that we work out our problems rather than to avoid talking about it, only for all of it to pile up and come back to haunt us later on.”

At this point, she had to clarify that she is still very much unmarried. “Both of us are very lucky that we have very understanding parents,” she explained. “As our elders, they are understandably concerned about our future, but they’re also very respectful of our wishes, which we’re grateful for. We’ll be getting married soon, though!”

Although she declined to shed more light on her definition of ‘soon’, the huge smile on her face when talking about her other half indicates she’s very much, and very adorably, in love.

Kylie is a sexy, bad*** mom – Travis Scott

Travis Scott, who recently bought a 2018 Maybach G650 Landaulet  worth $1.6m, claims that having a child hadn’t impacted on his and Kylie’s sex life.

Speaking as he interviewed the lip-kit mogul for Playboy magazine, 28-year-old Travis said: “A lot of people claim that having a baby can hurt your sex life, but I feel like that’s the opposite of our experience.”

And Kylie agreed as she added: “Yeah, I feel like we’ve definitely proven that rumour to be wrong.”

In a previously released preview for the interview, the ‘Keeping Up with the Kardashians’ star heaped praise on her boyfriend for showing her she can be both “sexy” and a “bada** mum” at the same time.

She said: “You remind me that motherhood and sexuality can coexist, and just because you embrace your sexuality doesn’t mean you have loose morals or you’re not a good mother. You can be sexy and still be a bada** mum.

“We think the same and have the same goals and passions in life. Besides the fact that we have good chemistry, we have a lot of fun together. You’re my best friend. Through all the ups and down that every relationship has, we evolve together through them and keep getting stronger.”

How Celine Dion is coping without a man’s touch

Celine Dion misses being “touched”.

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The 51-year-old singer still isn’t ready to date following the death of her husband René Angélil in January 2016 but she admitted there are certain aspects of having a partner that she feels are missing from her life.

Speaking on US TV show ‘Today’, she said: “I don’t date. I’m not ready to date. I’m very lucky and happy to have so many people in my surrounding to make me — they make me laugh, but I miss to be touched.

“I miss to be hugged. I missed to be told, ‘You’re beautiful.’ I miss what a boyfriend and I miss what a husband would do.”

The ‘My Heart Will Go On’ hitmaker recalled her final goodbye with her husband, who was battling cancer.

Celine, who has Rene-Charles, 18, and eight-year-old twins Eddy and Nelson, said: “He called me before a show and give me a little message: ‘I love you’ and when I came home that night, it was very, very late … And I didn’t want to come and wake him up to give him a kiss, to wake him up and then he can’t find sleep again.

“And the next morning, he was gone. So, we talked before. And he sent me a text message. So we said goodbye.”

Celine recently admitted it took her three years to gain the “passion to keep going” after René’s death.

She said: “I would say roughly three years, for me to have for example the passion to keep going and the force and the energy.”

The ‘Power Of Love’ singer also admitted that her children were “her strength” after her husband passed away.

She said: “They were my strength they’re all home schooled I have them they’re with me.”

Hong Ling hates marriage and kids

It’s been four years since local artistes Hong Ling and Nick Teo started dating.

Nick and Hong went public with their romance about a year–but don’t expect wedding bells to be ringing for them anytime soon, if ever.

Speaking with a local news outlet earlier this week during the imaging session of her new Channel 8 drama My Guardian Angels, she opened up on the inevitable subject of love, relationships and marriage.

Hong does intend to take her relationship with Nick to the next level, but her rather unexpected confession was: “Actually, I don’t want to get married leh.”

Cue the dramatic freeze frame and record scratch effect. What? Surely there isn’t trouble in paradise?

Don’t worry, it’s nothing like that. The 25-year-old actress explained with a shrug, “I feel like I’m already very comfortable with him and with how things are, so whether we get married or not doesn’t really make a difference.”

For the record, neither her beau nor her folks mind this untraditional decision of hers.

“I’ve told my parents about this before, and my mum was like, ‘Oh, very good ah, no need to get married.’ They think it’s not a bad idea to be single, even if you do have a partner,” she shared. “I believe Nick respects my choice as well.”

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Image combo shows Hong Ling, her boyfriend Nick Teo and niece

That said, the couple has definitely discussed a life together in the future – it just doesn’t necessarily involve a ring and certificate. Starting a family is also almost certainly not in the picture because, well, as Hong Ling bluntly admitted, she hates kids.

“I find them too noisy and mischievous! I’m quite introverted and don’t really like to talk much, so when kids bother me I just feel like hitting them,” she chuckled (relax lah, that last remark was an exaggerated figure of speech).

Even her own niece is not exempt. “She’s okay,” Hong Ling shrugged. “I don’t dislike her but I still find her troublesome at times, so I’d just avoid her then. (Laughs)”

Nick, on the other hand, makes more effort to entertain the little girl. “He does treat her very well – perhaps he finds her very cute? I don’t even play with my own niece, but Nick can spend two to three hours just sitting there with her – I can’t take it after five minutes! (Laughs)”

With an attitude like that, it wasn’t surprising to hear that one of Hong Ling’s biggest concerns about working on My Guardian Angels, in which she plays a young single mother, is dealing with her onscreen son.

“Kids tend to be more playful on set so they might not take work very seriously; I mean, they’re kids after all, so that’s one area that I’m a little worried about,” she mused. “But I heard that my kid is about seven years old, so I think he’ll be a bit more well-behaved, which puts me at ease.”

Her tendency to keep a distance from children also won’t stop her from being a consummate professional, as she voiced her plans to try her best to form a good relationship with the boy. She also told her co-star and fellow kid hater Edwin Goh, who plays her baby daddy in the show, that they should put their prejudice aside, immerse themselves in their characters as parents, and really love their onscreen offspring.

Well, who knows? Perhaps this role might be able to change their minds about little ones.

Joe Jonas and hubby add one to their family

Newly married couple Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner, who recently lost their beloved dog Waldo, were spotted with a new puppy.

The couple, who were enjoying quality time in Miami on Saturday, were seen giving a bath to the golden retriever puppy in a pool.

Nick Jonas also documented about the dog on his Instagram story.

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In the footage, which comes after the Jonas Brothers along with their wives landed in Miami prior to their ‘Happiness Begins’ tour, the 23-year-old ‘GoT’ star can be seen smiling as she cradles the puppy in her arms after getting off the private plane.

The addition of the dog comes after the couple’s Alaskan Klee Kai, Waldo, died just weeks ago. Waldo was taken for a walk in New York City by Jonas and Turner’s dog walker when the tragedy occurred, according to TMZ.

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Joe Jonas had to pick up his 45lb English bulldog Winston and carry him after the tired looking pooch gave up and sat down during a walk near his home (Source: Dailymail)

Though the previous dog was on a leash, it reportedly broke free after getting spooked by a pedestrian and running out into the street and eventually got hit by a fast-moving car.

The couple who were devastated at the tragic death of their dog, even got matching tattoos in its, soon after the horrific accident.

Dubai leader and estranged wife face legal battle in the UK

A legal battle between the powerful, poetry-writing ruler of Dubai and his wealthy estranged wife is leading toward a showdown in a London courtroom later this month.

The family division court case scheduled on July 30 pits Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum against Princess Haya, daughter of the late King Hussein of Jordan and an accomplished Olympic equestrian on friendly terms with horse aficionado Queen Elizabeth II.

The hearing is expected to focus on who will have custody of their two young children now that the princess has left Dubai. She is believed to be in Britain, where she owns a gated mansion on Kensington Palace Gardens, a private street lined with some of the world’s most expensive homes and cars.

When The Associated Press asked via intercom for an interview with Princess Haya or one of her representatives, a man emerged to say there would be no comments made on her behalf. He didn’t indicate whether she was in the residence.

The clash between Sheikh Mohammed and Princess Haya is the latest sign of trouble in his extended family. Last year, a daughter of Sheikh Mohammed tried to flee Dubai after appearing in a 40-minute video saying she had been imprisoned on and off for several years and had been abused. Her friends say she was forcibly returned after commandos stormed a boat carrying her off the coast of India when she tried to flee the Emirates.

Image shows  Sheikh Mohammed Al Maktoum, his wife Princess Haya of Jordan and their kids

The sheikh, who is the vice president and prime minister of the United Arab Emirates in addition to being the ruler of Dubai, is among the most influential figures in the Middle East. He also composes poetry, a long tradition among Gulf Arabs, and it was his own words that sparked the initial rumors that Haya had fled Dubai.

The talk started after a verified Emirati Instagram account followed by the Dubai ruler’s son posted a poem last week attributed to Sheikh Mohammed. The poem, titled “You Lived and You Died,” is about disloyalty, leading to speculation it is about Princess Haya.

“You betrayed the most precious trust, and your game has been revealed,” the poem says. “Your time of lying is over and it doesn’t matter what we were nor what you are.” The harsh words caused reverberations and speculation throughout royal circles in the Middle East and beyond.

The princess, 45, and Sheikh Mohammed, 69, were married in 2004 and have a daughter, 11, and son, 7, together. Both were educated at elite English universities and they share a love for horses. Media reports indicate she took the children with her when she left Dubai. Under Islamic law, a woman can at least nominally retain custody of her children in a divorce. Nonetheless, decisions about schooling, travel and lifestyles of the children often remain with the father in the Middle East. Given the Dubai ruler’s power, it is unlikely Princess Haya would have had a say in her children’s ability to leave the UAE had she not reportedly fled with them.

Haya’s half-brother is Jordan’s current monarch, King Abdullah, who was pictured at her side when she wed Dubai’s ruler, reportedly becoming his sixth wife. She is a former Olympic athlete who competed in equestrian show jumping in the 2000 Sydney Games, a taboo-breaking feat for women from traditional Muslim countries. Her love of sports and horse riding began early — she was just 13 when she became the first female to represent Jordan internationally in equestrian show jumping.

Haya has long stood out from other wives of Gulf Arab rulers not only because of her Jordanian royal background and Olympic ambitions, but because she was seen and photographed in public. Most rulers’ wives in the Gulf are never photographed and their faces and names aren’t known to the public. But Princess Haya wasn’t only visible at humanitarian events, often seated front row in Dubai by her husband’s side, but was a stylish fixture in glossy magazines and at prestigious equestrian events in the U.K,, like the Royal Ascot and Epsom Derby.

In a 2009 Daily Mail interview, the princess said she deliberately postponed marriage until she could meet a man “who doesn’t feel he has to mold me.” She was quoted as saying, “You have to accept that you’re in control of yourself but not your destiny.”

The government of Dubai hasn’t commented on the media reports about Princess Haya fleeing with her children to Europe.

Jada Pinkett Smith explains why girls find married men irresistible

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Jada Pinkett Smith said she thinks women, generally, find married men more attractive because of “security issues.”

Although the Hollywood star admits that couples need a reasonable level of “security” to stay happy together, she insists that feature has been bastardized and should not be condoned.

The 47-year-old star who is married to “Men in Black” actor Will Smith – explained further on her views about why people might find the idea of dating married men so appealing.

Speaking in an interview with Extra, Jada said: ‘In my opinion, women who are attracted to married men—specifically married men with power—tend to do so because it gives them a sense of stability and security.

She continued, ‘This excuse doesn’t make it right but it’s obvious that most women [in the game] don’t really care what people think…They’re drawn to it because it offers them a leeway—some sort of security for their survival.

‘For example, such men [in the olden days] could build a beautiful log cabin, go out and kill a lion and bring it to the house so you can eat…In this modern time, women (young and old) desire well-furnished houses.

‘Again, back in the day, men from the other village would come in and he would whoop some ass. That’s the feeling. It’s simply “primal”.

Recently, the “Girls Trip” star revealed on social media that she felt pressured to tie the knot with her now-husband Will earlier on in their relationship but admits she declined because she had “never seen a happy marriage”.

In her words: “I never wanted to get married. But my mother was like, ‘You have to get married’”

She added, ‘My mom is so old school. Will also wanted a family so that—kinda—prodded me a bit.

‘“All right, maybe it’s something I should do,’ I said at the time… I had never seen a happy marriage. I adored Will, I f***ing adored him, but I just didn’t want to be married.”

Jada previously explained that she enjoys a “very strong bond” with Will now than they did at the start of their relationship.

She said: “It just felt like loss. There was too much concentration on what was happening externally, and the family unit itself wasn’t getting the attention and care that I felt we needed.

“Will’s like, ‘We just came from Oslo, going to the [2009] Nobel Peace Prize ceremony [for Barack Obama] as a family, you’ve got a big house with a lake – isn’t this amazing?!’And I’m like, ‘No’. By the time my 40th [birthday] came, I was like, ‘I can’t do it anymore.’ I was so depleted.”

Relationships and Marriage: Is age really a number?

Are you flirting with someone older than you? Or are you annoyed with people saying you’re “robbing the cradle”? How much do age differences matter in dating?

There’s no doubt age gaps can be a point of stress for couples. Even established couples might have to deal with social scrutiny if one partner is considerably older than the other. Why do we pay attention to age when it comes to dating preferences? How important is chronological age when it comes to relationships?

Romantic attraction isn’t blind to age-gap calculations

A new review published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences highlights the critical role of age in romantic relationship formation (Conroy-Beam & Buss, 2019). As has been discussed in the field of social- and evolutionary-psychology for decades now, the importance of age lies in its signalling power. Chronological age is a fairly reliable cue for adaptive reproductive and survival qualities in prospective mates. Because human sexual desire and long-term mating interest track age-related reproductive “fitness” qualities, age becomes a key marker for heterosexual romantic attraction.

Which ages are the most attractive?

From an evolutionary standpoint, a woman’s fecundity promotes the passing on of genes, and if it fluctuates by age, certain ages should be particularly attractive to men. In general, women hit peak fertility in their mid-twenties. Fertility declines but is maintained into the early 30s and then drops off considerably until menopause. This suggests men are apt to experience heightened romantic interest to women in that age bracket.

Empirical evidence adds to the general argument that men favor younger women. Below is a sample of the supporting data described by Conway-Beam and Buss (2019):

  • Cross-culturally men report wanting partners who are about 3 years their junior, averages range from about 2- 4 years.
  • Personal ads also show that while young men appear to desire slightly older women, as men age, they typically seek partners who are increasingly younger than themselves (i.e., targeting peak fertility).
  • Marriage records from multiple countries, including the U.S., show a clear trend in which husbands are typically older than their wives, which the age gap increasing for older men.
  • Men spend more money on engagement rings for younger women, pay more for younger prostitutes, and in bride-price cultures (e.g., Kenya), men must spend more money in order to marry a younger bride.

Men also experience age-related trends in their appeal to women. From an evolutionary perspective, men’s ability to acquire and maintain resources promotes offspring survival and therefore, if this ability is age-linked, certain ages for men should spark women’s attraction. Historically, men’s hunting-and-gathering productivity likely peaked around the mid-thirties; modern Census data is consistent showing that men’s income peaks in their mid-40s and early 50s,  though admittedly, age is a less perfect predictor of reproductive value for men here, than it is for women. Nonetheless, the appeal of older men for long-term relationships may reflect their earnings, with short-term attraction anchoring on slightly younger men, so as to maximize sperm quality.

Empirical evidence has also accumulated in support of women’s preferences for older men and as you might expect, the data often overlap with those data supporting men’s preferences. As this sample of Conway-Beam and Buss’s (2019) review suggests:

  • Cross-culturally, women report wanting partners who are (on average) 3.5 years older than them.
  • In online dating, women make first contact with older men at a greater than rate they do younger men.
  • Marriage records show that women are marrying men who are older than they are by about 3 years.

There appear to be consistent patterns across people that favor the appeal of younger women and the appeal of older men, but group data do not allow for clear prediction regarding a specific individual. Further, these predictions assume an innate desire for children which might not be reflected in a person’s own preferences, and questions still remain on how we might understand age-related patterns for gay and lesbian couples. Rather than assuming that chronological age is a determinant of potential dating success, romantic desirability, or sexual attraction, Conway-Beam and Buss (2019) provide these important considerations:

Age Is More Than a Number

  • Perceived age is what matters. Conway-Beam and Buss (2019) highlight that age-related inferences come from what people see, not from an internal chronological number. This perhaps explains why some older women work to appear younger (e.g., through make-up, dress styles, cosmetic surgery, etc.) and some younger men work to appear more mature (e.g., growing a beard, dress-style, etc.).
  • Age ideals do not directly translate into partner decisions. People’s relationship choices depend on more than age-linked cues for reproductive value. Individuals’ values and personal preferences, social factors, religious or cultural norms… all of these play an important role in actual dating decisions. In other words, real decisions that people feel good about do not always reflect hypothetical ideals regarding mate preferences.
  • Age-related preferences may be “lived out” more by highly-desired partners. Because men compete for the attention of desirable women and women compete for the attention of desirable men, whomever is highly desirable may have much more choice among potential partners. These highly-desirable individuals (i.e., people who have high mate value) may be better able to turn their ideal age preferences in to actual partner decisions.

Motivation speaker reveals what makes women ‘beautiful’

A man has caused outrage after he revealed his 12 step guide to how women can be “beautiful”.

Alexander J.A Cortes – who is a writer and motivation speaker – sparked debate last week when he tweeted a list of essential rules women need to follow, and it includes “listening to men” and “wearing pink”.

He tweeted: “You can use this list to vet women. If you show them this list and they become angry, that lets you know that they are harpies that you never want to breed with and that they would be terrible mothers. stay woke kings (sic)”

According to Cortes, the list of “how to be a Beautiful Woman” is as follows:

– Be thin

– Be able to cook

– Have long hair

– Wear make-up

– Be feminine

– Be graceful

– Be Sensual

– Shave (should without saying)

– Be fashionable

– Wear pink and feminine colors

– Love men

– Listen to men