A beautiful boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage and their joy knew no bounds. They were a loving couple; the boy was the apple of their eyes, but a tragic event that could have ended the marriage occurred when the boy was barely two years old.
One morning, the husband was preparing to leave for work when he saw an uncovered medicine. The man was running late so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard.
Preoccupied with her chores in the kitchen, his wife totally forgot the instruction. Unfortunately, their toddler saw the bottle and played with it as a toy but his fascination for the colorful and tasty liquid prodded him with thirst and inquisitiveness.
Laughing to good heavens, the boy drank it all. The medicine was an antibiotic meant to be taken by adults in small dosages. So, it was poison to him. The child collapsed soon afterward and on sighting her son with a foamy substance spurting from his mouth, the mother called for help and rushed him to the hospital, where he died.
The mother was stunned, hopeless, devastated and heart-broken. Thoughts of her husband’s expected reaction terrified her even more. However, when the distraught father arrived at that hospital, having heard of the tragic incident, he first went over to see their dead child and then smiled, looking at his wife who patiently waited for an outburst.
The man helplessly moved over to his crying wife and uttered just four remarkable words.
What do you think were the four words?
The husband just said: “I Love You Darling.”
Her husband’s totally unexpected reaction is proactive behaviour because the child is dead and no amount of anger, fights or blames can ever bring him back to life. He knew there was no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he have taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
On her part, the woman accepted the fault without attaching blame to her husband. She had also lost her only child – their source of joy. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband and that, was exactly what he offered.
You see, sometimes, we spend time asking who is responsible or who is to blame for simple or grievous matters in our relationships without knowledge that we’re missing the warmth and support which every human relationship needs to survive. After all, shouldn’t forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing to do in the world?
Treasure what you have. Don’t multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding on to forgiveness. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness and fears, and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think…