Most people remember to buy gifts and say, ‘I Love You, Mom’, only on Mother’s Day. This is ingratitude, no matter what gift you are giving – house, car, clothes, cash, cards, SMS or flowers. These gifts aren’t so important, not because they’re worth nothing but because you are giving it wrongly.
What does your mother mean to you?
Different people have varied definitions of motherhood. It is therefore, without doubts, that what gift one gives to a mother and how it is given, to a greater extent, shows what a mother means.
“No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star.” – Edwin Hubbell Chapin
A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.
How sad it is that people are too quick to forget the pains and sufferings mothers pass through to see their children grow into adults.
Today, we (kids, teens and adults) tend to care more about savings, relationships and luxury while relegating mothers to the background. We forgot that mothers starved, borrowed cash, took loans and even received insults with gratitude to give their kids as much as could be provided – education, health, dignity and more.
Mothers are the least people that get attention from the world as if they never needed it like they did with the ‘pies’.
Every mother deserves as much attention as we give girlfriends and wives, notwithstanding, in a different way.
Can you ever pay back what you owe to your mother?
There’s no way you are going to be able to pay back what you owe to your mother. The best you can do is, try. Show her that you have the desire to pay what you owe.
Do you really wish to pay? if yes, you need to understand that no one will ever be wealthy enough to pay mothers what they’re owed.
“Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love.” – Mildred B. Vermont
The best way to say, ‘I Love You, Mom’.
Now get a calculator and key in how many days, weeks, months and years you have gained services from your mother. Consider motherhood a salaried job and estimate how much you owe to your mother. Millions, right?
Surprisingly, mothers are forever kind. They don’t need you to pay cash or even think about paying back – except with love. “Pure love.” How then do you give mothers this pure love they crave?
The Best Mother’s Day GIFT
Pray For Her: You don’t need to be a Christian, Buddhist, Atheist or Muslim to know how to pray. Wish her long life and good health everyday, in words and actions.
Wish her good health by caring for her insurance packages. Take her to a hospital for check-ups more often. Ask to know how she’s coping with age everyday.
Buy her anything that’ll help extend her life span – healthy living environment, good food and supplements etc. Take her for a walk or advise her to walk for life.
Know Her Dreams: Help her realize her dreams, if any. Have you even worried about finding out if she has dreams? Too, bad. People don’t stop dreaming because they’re old.
You, as her child, could be an embodiment of your mother’s life dreams but have you found out what that is? Knowing it and pursuing same will give every mother an inner peace that can’t be measured.
Watching you achieve her dreams will see her rest in perfect peace even in death. In that way, you won’t need to mourn her much in the grave – knowing she’s always smiling down on you from the skies.
Stay Close: Are you married or living away from your mom? You can keep the love glowing with SMS, phone calls and regular visits. Buy her cards and flowers, as you would your wife or girlfriend. Tell her ‘I love You’ and mean it when you say it.
Get Her A Helpmate: Everyone needs help, especially mothers as they grow old. She may seem strong or at least, pretend not to know pains as she did through the years. That doesn’t mean she’s a robot.
The fact that mothers are not known for complaining doesn’t mean they don’t need help. It’s a shame if we forget that we all will someday, just like our mothers, grow old. How would you like to be left alone in old age?
Know that mommies are just big little girls.
Mother’s Day, 2016 is a good year to start building those broken bridges. The time to start is now. You have no need to worry about money because you don’t need to spend a dime. Start from the simplest of my advice and work your way up.
Tender apologies to every mother for the past wrongs, misunderstandings and ingratitude shown. Start with ‘I’m Sorry’ and prove your sincerity with action.