A new research conducted within an online community of men who prefer sex without condom, including those who “stealthily” remove the rubber without their sex partner’s consent, will send shivers down your spine.
For those men and women who loose their rights to safe sex — willingly or otherwise — to some careless and wicked partners, help is underway.
Interestingly, this covert risky sexual behavior is getting legal attention to save the lives of those who may suddenly become vulnerable once their sexual partners choose to unfasten their safety belts on the flight to cloud nine.
Alexandra Brodsky, a researcher with the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law, sought ways to address this purposefully non-consensual sex practice among men and women.
In his new study, the scholar focused on issues surrounding treachery between sexual partners.
No one is entitled to “raw” sex with others, regardless of gender, age or race — unless there’s a given consent.
Stealthing is considered an act of violence which is punishable as a violation of civil and criminal laws.
“One can note that proponents of ‘stealthing’ root their support in an ideology of male supremacy in which violence is a man’s natural right,” Brodsky argued.
She works as a Legal Fellow for National Women’s Law Center, a job which presented her with cases on sexual violence rooted in misogyny and lack of respect for sex partners.
In the course of her study, Brodsky met with a victim of “stealthing” named Rebecca, who called in to report her experience.
“I’m not sure if this is rape, but…,” she sobbed during the conversation.
The threat of a possible STD, HIV and AIDS — sparked in the minds of stealthed victims, has driven many to mental illness and suicide.
“Survivors of stealthing describe nonconsensual condom removal as a threat to their bodily agency and as a dignitary harm,” Brodsky writes.
“‘You have no right to make your own sexual decisions,’ they are told. “‘You are not worthy of my consideration.'”
She continues: “Nonconsensual condom removal during sexual intercourse exposes victims to physical risks of pregnancy and disease and … is experienced by many as a grave violation of dignity and autonomy.
“Such condom removal, popularly known as ‘stealthing’, can be understood to transform consensual sex into non-consensual sex by one of two theories, one of which poses a risk of over-criminalisation by demanding complete transparency about reproductive capacity and sexually transmitted infections.”
Worse still, there are lots of online communities made up of men who derive pleasure in “stealthing.” They exchange ideas and tricks on how to successfully remove condoms during intimacy — without a partner’s consent.
Brodsky wrote: “‘Stealthing’ victims have to deal with the potential repercussions of unprotected sex – pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases – as well as confusion and shame over the lack of consent involved.
“One of my goals with the article, and in proposing a new statute, is to provide a vocabulary and create ways for people to talk about what is a really common experience that is just too often dismissed as just ‘bad sex’ instead of ‘violence,'” she added.
According to a USA Today report on Advocacy for Sexual Assault, a programme championed by The Florida Council Against Sexual Violence, Onelia Perkins of Panama City said: “I just want people to know that it (sexual violence) happens every day, and we need to know about it to help other people including ourselves.
“We need to advocate all the time,” said the victim.